Your Element is Desire!

Your strength

You possess a lot of passion for life. You are highly creative and like to take risks. You have many desires, big and small. If I told you, “Make me a list of 10 things you want more of,” you’d grab and pen and get to work.

Your trap/weakness

You think your passion is “too much” and that your desires make you needy or demanding. Though you possess confidence and grit, when it comes to sex and relationship you struggle to advocate for your needs. Although passion is very important to you, you can ironically tolerate flatline relationships. You tend to blame yourself for the problems in your relationship.

The key for you

Your high energy is essential for your happiness. Your passion and desire have the power to take you towards your greatness. Stop toning down your expression and instead start asking for even MORE in your sex life and the rest of your life. When you stop wanting things and start keeping quiet about your needs, your relationships flatline. Take your wild and free expression out of the cage you’ve put it in, and let it help create a better life for you and your partner.
PS: Stop blaming your suppressed expression on your partner. Your partner loves you and chose you for a reason—so let it rip!

Follow the path

Start by downloading the Turned On Woman’s Manifesto. It will help you commit to full sexual expression and feel met by a partner who’s as excited about sex as you are.

What about the other Elements? You’ll learn them all down the path in the 6 Elements course. 

Download the Manifesto

Women who download the manifesto say they read it three times in a row, then get the chills, and then print it out so they can sign it. It’s that powerful.

Download it here for free, then please tell me your reaction.

Take the 6 Elements Course

The concepts in the 6 Elements of Sex You Love Course are must-knows for your confidence, fulfillment, & sanity. Don’t have sex without them!

  • 10-minute modules
  • Written and video materials
  • Start with your Element

Get the App

If you want to learn to swim, you’ve got to get in the pool. Download these 10 laughably simple, no-pressure ways to talk about & explore better sex with your partner. I call them “Quickies.”

Test the beta version here


Inspire other women

Women help women have better sex. Text the quiz to a girlfriend who wants better sex.

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Who am I?

Who am I?

Hi, I’m Bez Stone. I help make sex appealing to women so couples stay together. I’m a Stanford-educated writer and sex coach who’s helped thousands of women just like you feel more confident, sexy, and alive. I live in Santa Cruz, CA with my family.