Your Element is Letting Go!

Your strength

You are motivated and driven, with an incredible ability to get things done in your life. You are honest and don’t like to fake it.

Your trap/weakness

Sex becomes another item on your to-do list. Although you can’t stand fakery, ironically in sex you tend to put on a show. After sex you may check the boxes of “good sex”: s/he came, you came, everyone was happy—check. Even when sex checks all the boxes, you don’t necessarily enjoy yourself. Since sex is an item on your to-do list, over time it naturally starts to feel like a chore.

The key for you

Sex can be relaxing and replenishing for you. Your pleasure is an incredible tool that can help you feel sane. When you’re overwhelmed and don’t want to have sex, that’s when you need it the most. Not to-do list sex, but the real deal of connection, pleasure, and letting go. The key for you is to learn how to have the type of sex that nourishes you and leaves you feeling smooth and rejuvenated.
PS: Start y seeing your partner as someone who wants to help you relax and feel pleasure, rather than another mouth to feed.

Follow the path

Start by downloading the Turned On Woman’s Manifesto. It will help you feel more relaxed and sensual in every area of your life.

What about the other Elements? You’ll learn them all down the path in the 6 Elements course. 

Download the Manifesto

Women who download the manifesto say they read it three times in a row, then get the chills, and then print it out so they can sign it. It’s that powerful.

Download it here for free, then please tell me your reaction.

Take the 6 Elements Course

The concepts in the 6 Elements of Sex You Love Course are must-knows for your confidence, fulfillment, & sanity. Don’t have sex without them!

  • 10-minute modules
  • Written and video materials
  • Start with your Element

Get the App

If you want to learn to swim, you’ve got to get in the pool. Download these 10 laughably simple, no-pressure ways to talk about & explore better sex with your partner. I call them “Quickies.”

Test the beta version here


Inspire other women

Women help women have better sex. Text the quiz to a girlfriend who wants better sex.

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Who am I?

Who am I?

Hi, I’m Bez Stone. I help make sex appealing to women so couples stay together. I’m a Stanford-educated writer and sex coach who’s helped thousands of women just like you feel more confident, sexy, and alive. I live in Santa Cruz, CA with my family.