SEX THAT INSPIRES YOU

A step-by-step guide to leave the rut behind and reclaim sexual fulfillment

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What people are saying:

James

James

Nonprofit COO

“After the birth of our daughter, our sex life became unsatisfying—with my wife becoming uninterested in sex, and I unwilling to initiate and get rejected (again). Those patterns have untangled, and now our love-making is more frequent, passionate, and creative.”

Diana

Diana

Conscious Leadership Group

“Such valuable wisdom here. If there is anything about your sex life that wants to change, Bez is a fantastic mentor.”

Megan

Megan

Relationship Coach

“What Bez teaches is that we’ve had it backwards the whole time. I learned there was nothing wrong with my body or my partner. Once I took this training and learned sex for MY body, sex has gotten 100 times better!

Bez Stone is an advocate for women’s sexual fulfillment and teaches sex for YOUR body. She challenges long-standing misconceptions about women and teaches a revolutionary method of sexual fulfillment. Bez is a Stanford-educated writer, certified Sex Coach, and emerging authority in women’s sexuality.

I look forward to getting to know you better!

Summary

Table of Contents

 

  1. Face Your Feelings: “How do I feel about my sex life?”
  2. Prioritize Your Sexual Fulfillment: “Why is sexual fulfillment important for me?”
  3. Believe More is Possible: “How am I settling?”
  4. Discover What You Want: “What do I really want?”
  5. Get Educated: “What IS feminine sexual fulfillment?”
  6. Get support: I am an advocate for women’s sexual fulfillment

 

1. Face Your Feelings

The First Question: “Am I sexually fulfilled?”

 

Your sexual fulfillment matters.

It’s a vital aspect of your health and happiness. Studies show that high quality connection boosts health—and that when we women don’t speak up about our needs it skyrockets our chances of unhappiness—and of early death.

If you aren’t sexually fulfilled, you might feel:

  • Drained, tired, and turned off
  • Lonely
  • Frustrated and critical of your partner
  • Devastated
  • Hopeless
  • Unattractive
  • Emotionally explosive or withdrawn
  • At your wits end

Your feelings matter. You aren’t overreacting. Your feelings signal what is and isn’t working.

When you think about your sex life and relationship, what do you feel? 

2. Prioritize Your Sexual Fulfillment

The Second Question: “Why is sexual fulfillment important for me?” 

 

Sexual struggles don’t improve on their own. In fact over time, ignored sexual problems increase your chances of relationship unhappiness, affairs, and divorce.

10 years back my sex life with my husband was decent, but not inspiring. Within 2 years it went from decent—to terrible—to non-existent. I founded Sex for YOUR Body because none of the results being offered by typical sex advice seemed worth having. I didn’t want blowjob tips or new sex toys. I wanted something radically different—gratifying, intimate, and inspiring.

Women who feel sexually fulfilled report feeling:

  • Confident
  • Turned on
  • Beautiful in their own skin
  • Self-respecting
  • Connected
  • In love with their partners
  • More alive
  • Relaxed and replenished
  • Supported by their partners
  • and Valued, appreciated, and adored.

How might your relationships, work, and life improve if you felt inspired by your sex life? 

3. Believe More is Possible

The Third Question: “Where am I settling?” 

 

Most talk on sexual fulfillment orients around achieving a goal, like “driving him wild” or having an orgasm.

I wasn’t satisfied with that. Don’t get me wrong, orgasms are great—but I knew there had to be more. Even after “successful” sex where we both came and my partner seemed happy, something was missing… I longed for a more profound, exciting sexual experience.

But I didn’t know how to explain what I wanted because I wasn’t even sure if it was possible.

Now I know: deep sexual fulfillment—whatever that means for YOU—is our birthright as women, and is essential for our health and happiness. You don’t need to settle for “decent” sex anymore.

Where are you settling for less in your sex life or relationship? 

 

4. Discover What You Want

The Fourth Question: “What do I really want?” 

 

In order to start having sex that inspires us, we must get clear about what we really want. It starts with your desire.

Desire is a crucial ingredient for real change. We often easily express what we don’t want—but the real key is to change is to identify and express what we DO want.

Change utilizes three ingredients:

  • DESIRE for something more.
  • WILLINGNESS to have it.
  • Taking ACTION!

What do you know you want 

 

 

5. Invite Your Partner

The Fifth Question: “Would you help me have what I want?”

 

When women aren’t sexually fulfilled—NO ONE is truly fulfilled. I can guarantee that if you aren’t inspired by your sex life, your partner isn’t either.

Not because you’re not attractive or appealing enough. (Quite the contrary, in fact!) But because YOUR fulfillment and enjoyment of sex skyrockets your partners’ fulfillment as well. Your happiness is what your partner want most.

Why doesn’t it seem like that?

Over time, it’s easy to grow distant from our partners and stop connecting intimately. If you partner is a man, it can be easy to assume that he doesn’t care, won’t take it well, or isn’t going to be on board. The good news: I’m going to teach you a way to ask your partner for what you want that has him excited to give it to you. This specific way to ask makes sense to men.

  1. Say what you want. It’s always important to start with the basics! “I want to make our sex life more inspiring.”
  2. Say why it matters to you. Expressing WHY you want better sex helps your partner fully understand your desire. Say what you want—and then say why it matters to you.
  3. Tell your parter how you would feel if you got what you want. Your happiness is very important to your partner. Telling them this would make you happy is often enough to get him excited and ready to participate.
  4. Ask your partner if he will help you. Invite him to join you by asking for his help. (I know—we often shy away form the word “help.” However, that word makes sense to men’s brains.)
  5. Tell him what it might look like. Clue him in as to what exploring your sexual connection might look like: anything from taking a class with Bez, reading this blog post together, or listening to Bez’s new podcast.

Are you willing to invite your partner to join you in better sex? 

 

 

 

6. Get Educated

The Sixth Question: “What IS feminine sexual fulfillment?” 

 

Women’s sexual fulfillment occurs radically differently than men’s. Sex-as-we-know-it predictably lowers women’s libidos over time, and doesn’t feel renewing or fulfilling. Instead, it can feeling draining and repetitive.

That’s because conventional sex isn’t made for women’s bodies. It ignores our unique feminine sexual mechanics. None of us—men and women alike—have learned how to have sex that truly inspires us.

In conventional sex, women often focus more on their partner’s pleasure than their own. This is because conventional sex doesn’t inspire most women for a lifetime. And when women aren’t turned on and inspired by sex—their partners don’t feel fulfilled, either.

If sex feels like “work” for you or you’re uninspired, there’s nothing wrong with you or your partner. It means you need a modern sex education that includes women’s bodies.

Would you like to learn a new way to have sex, one that’s more fulfilling for everyone? 

 

 

 

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7. Get Support

I am an advocate for women’s sexual fulfillment. I want to help you. 

 

In order to start having sex that inspires us and fulfills everyone, we need to radically change our thinking around sex—and even change how we have sex. The old framework of conventional sex doesn’t provide a lifetime of fulfillment.

I want to support you in your fulfillment:

 

Thank you for downloading!

Special offer: Sign up for support with any of Bez’s trainings or coaching programs now and receive a special discount plus bonus resources.

10% OFF THE TRAINING OF YOUR CHOICE

James

James

Nonprofit COO

“After the birth of our daughter, our sex life became unsatisfying—with my wife becoming uninterested in sex, and I unwilling to initiate and get rejected (again). Those patterns have untangled, and now our love-making is more frequent, passionate, and creative.”

Diana

Diana

Conscious Leadership Group

“Such valuable wisdom here. If there is anything about your sex life that wants to change, Bez is a fantastic mentor.”

Megan

Megan

Relationship Coach

“What Bez teaches is that we’ve had it backwards the whole time. I learned there was nothing wrong with my body or my partner. Once I took this training and learned sex for MY body, sex has gotten 100 times better!

Bez Stone is an advocate for women’s sexual fulfillment and teaches sex for YOUR body. She challenges long-standing misconceptions about women and teaches a revolutionary method of sexual fulfillment. Bez is a Stanford-educated writer, certified Sex Coach, and emerging authority in women’s sexuality.