Have you ever noticed that you recycle the SAME relationship issues over and over again? Do you want to let your big, bold self OUT in your life and relationships—but are afraid that if you did you might offend someone? Do you sometimes hide your successes, desires, or attractions out of guilt or embarrassment?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, then you need to understand the one relationship problem and how to solve it. We are each born with a “set point” for how much goodness we can tolerate. It’s like an internal thermostat for how happy you are allowed to be before the AC comes on and cools down the heat on your life, relationships, and intimacy.

I gave this hour-long interactive lecture for an organization in Santa Cruz, which teaches the partnered sexuality practice of Orgasmic Meditation (OM). Watch to learn how to end your recurring relationship struggles—and to learn why sexuality practices like OM are vital to having better relationships.

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